Happy.

I feel like I’m in a time of life that’s crazy and confusing and nothing really makes sense, but I really couldn’t be happier. (:

Some days I get insanely stressed out and cry a little (okay maybe a lot) because I feel like I have nothing  figured out but that’s just part of life/being young and confused #ohwell. 

I’ve just never been happier with life than I am right now & I think that’s something to celebrate!

Happiness has always been something I’ve struggled with. It’s been a j o u r n e y to get here but for the first time in my life I can confidently say that I’m genuinely happy, AND that I’m happy wayyyy more often than I am sad. 

Which is huge win for me. 

For a long time I was so frustrated with myself. I saw how happy everyone else was and I couldn’t figure out why I was so depressed. I was beating myself up over e v e r y t h i n g. It seemed like happiness came so naturally to everyone except me and that was really hard to deal with. 

Then I realized that other people were struggling to be ~happy~ in happy valley just like I was & for some reason that made me feel so much better. Not that I was glad other people were unhappy, it just made me feel more normal and less like a sad, depressed, lonely little outlier.  

I’m still definitely not Susie sunshine and I’m not saying I have a magic formula to fix your life, sometimes fixing your life means taking antidepressants and years of therapy, but I do have a few things that have tremendously helped me be happier more often (it’s still a work in progress). 

•Do what makes you feel good 

For me that’s going to the gym and actually getting ready everyday. It’s crazy what some endorphins & a little make up/not looking a potato can do for my self esteem.  

•Stop beating yourself up 

Seriously stop being so hard on yourself!!! Stop putting yourself down!! STOP IT RIGHT NOW! You are awesome, love yourself, talk to yourself with love (hello, I am very much still working on this one). 

•Gratitude journal 

Take like 5 minutes every morning and write down a few things you’re grateful for. This makes such a huge difference & I think everyone should do it. Seriously it is a GAME CHANGER! If I don’t write in my gratitude journal for a few days I’m noticeably more negative/kind of bitch, ew. 

•Let yourself feel emotions

It’s okay to be sad or mad or annoyed or whatever you’re feeling that isn’t *happy happy happy*. Truly let yourself feel those emotions instead of bottling them up and trying to act happy.  Emotions are healthy, take a minute (or a few hours) to feel them and then move TF on. 

•Cut negativity out of your life

For me that meant quitting my awful job, but I don’t necessarily recommend doing that lol. But if something/someone truly makes you unhappy, GET RID OF IT. 

•Stop making excuses 

Everyone has things they want to do and the only thing holding them back is excuses. Cut the crap and start making stuff happen yo. There NO LIMITS in life except for the ones that you set for yourself. 

•Happiness is internal

Game changer, it seriously took me 20 years to figure this out and I feel kind of silly that it took me so long, but happiness comes from you. No one can take it away from you, it’s yours. Happiness is NOT situational, let me say that again for the people in the back, HAPPINESS IS NOT SITUATIONAL. Life can be shitty and you can still be happy (mind blowing I know). Put happiness first and then allll da good things come.

Life is magical and good and full of crazy potential and millions of blessings. There is no reason not to be absolutely giddy about life. I hope that this helps someone at least a tiny bit because girl, I have been there, I know. Life does not have to be perfect to be happy. You are magical and awesome and deserve to feel nothing but extraordinary happiness. Anyway, that’s all for today. I’m so grateful for life & this blog. Thank you for being here

-Jess♥